Turn Your Shortcomings Around
October 22nd, 2008. Published under The Ultimate You. No Comments.
When something goes wrong in our lives, it can be hard to see the forest for the trees. We try to find the source of the errors in the world around us. It seems obvious that there must be someone or something “out there” conspiring against us. How could we ever succeed with the deck stacked against us like it is?
This is the wrong approach. Defeatist thinking patterns place the locus of control outside of your power, making the obstacles worse than they seem. You must realize that the only thing you have the ability to change is your attitudes toward your situation, so you must be brutally honest with yourself. If you were outside of the situation, where would you place the blame? What could you have done to make the situation better? How can you move forward, minimizing the effects of any mistakes you have made?
By bringing the locus of control back under your power, you seize the ability to improve your situation. You gain the resilience and strength that you need to ask not what made this situation go badly, but what can you do to prevent mistakes in the future.